What an absolutely wonderful weekend for my friends in the US! The Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) made the Supreme Ruling that all people, regardless of their sexual orientation, are to have the right to marry whomever they choose! Hip Hip hooray! I hope this means that I’ll be invited to a lot more weddings this year. A marriage is a sacred contract between two people and I do not think that it should only be allowed to be between a man and a woman. I also know that a lot of people have an opposite view from mine. But look at it this way, you have your views, I have mine. As little as 50 years ago, people of different races were not allowed to marry because it was “wrong”. Today, no one even blinks an eye. So I hope with all my heart that even those who are not happy with this ruling will accept it and learn to embrace it. I’m not going to demand that you be happy with it, but to try to be happy for those who have been living in the shadows for so long.
Also, how can you not be happy when videos like this are created as a result of this ruling?
And while we are talking about equality. Why are women the only ones who have to suffer for beauty? Why are we the only ones who have to wear stilettos to “look good”? Also, did you know that men wore heels first so that they would appear taller than women? I bet they figured out it was painful as hell and a ridiculously silly idea and decided that they should let women do the suffering instead! Well, no more!
And you know how some people (ok, me) think that it must be great to be a princess? Well, I guess so did Amy Schumer until she has to marry her first cousin and gets beheaded too! Makes me glad that I am living a perfectly peasant life! No prince. But I have a sweet caring partner and that’s enough for me!
And speaking of marrying a prince. What happens when you and the prince have a baby? Crying babies are one of the reasons why I can’t have a child. I don’t deny that moments like these are sweet and tear jerking. But oy vey. So stressful!
You don’t know me and I don’t know you, but my son, Timothy, sometimes sits beside your son at school.
Timothy has severe autism spectrum disorder. He is also a 7-year-old little boy who loves and plays with all of his heart. He needs a lot of extra help at school and sometimes seems just plain oblivious to what’s happening right underneath his nose.
He wants friends but sometimes doesn’t know how to make them.
He wants to play but sometimes doesn’t know how to ask.
He wants to be included but sometimes doesn’t know how.
We parents of children with special needs know only too well the hurt our kids feel when they are left out of the social gatherings.
Organized sports, play dates, sleepovers and yes, the dreaded birthday parties.
I can say whole-heartedly that my son has not attended a single one. We have received countless invitations in the past few years, but mostly by kids who mercilessly invite the entire class. Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful.
But I wonder if the parents know what would happen if I brought Timothy? The interruptions, the meltdowns. How I would hate to take the spotlight from the birthday child.
So we politely decline. Every single one.
Until your invitation arrived in the mail with a special note. It read:
“Carter sat beside Timothy at
school and he always talks about him. I really hope he can come. We are renting a bounce castle that we can attach a small bounce slide at the bottom. We will also have water balloon’s and water guns. Maybe Timothy can come earlier in the day if it would be too much with the whole class. Let me know how we can make it work.”
You wrote exactly what I needed to see that day and didn’t even know it.
Because of your son he is included.
Because of your son he feels wanted.
Because of your son he has a voice.
And I want you to know that because of you I can get through another day.
Because of you I can get through another appointment.
Because of you I can take more stares and more questions.
Because of you I have hope for Timothy’s future.
I just wanted to tell you what a fantastic job you are doing with your son.
This mom will be RSVPing a hell yes for the first time ever. And I can’t wait.
A month ago, when the Beau was here, I decided to take him to Sentosa Island. The main reason is because I haven’t been there since Sentosa was just, well, Sentosa, and not Resort World Sentosa as it is known now. In fact, when we went to the World Trade Center to get ferry tickets, a very bemused ferry ticket operator told me that ferries to Sentosa have ceased operation for more than 7 years! Oops. But now, you can walk to Sentosa Island (wwwwwhhhhatttt??!!). Obviously I made the poor boy walk.
Turns out the walk really wasn’t that bad. Most of it is covered. And there are walk-alators for most of it. Plus you get to see the island looming near although it definitely looked nothing like the island I grew up with. For one thing, there’s now a gigantic Merlion facing out to Singapore. That said, maybe its always been there and I never noticed.
Once we reached the end of the walk-alator, there was a pleasant surprise waiting for us. Apparently its free! Well, its free now till the end of this year. Yay for Singapore’s Jubilee Year! We walked past the gates and ended up officially on Sentosa Island. It appeared that we were at the back of Universal Studios. We walked around a bit until we found what we came for–the S.E.A Aquarium. One of our dates in LA had been the Long Beach Aquarium and I was eager to show the Beau our aquarium as well. We were not disappointed. The Beau really loved the sharks and he loved how there were so many of them zooming past us in the tunnels. And then we saw a lot of really cool jelly fish (my favorite) and a huge octopus who had a tank all to himself. And there was a really pretty aquarium with flowers around a heart shaped garland and obviously we took lots of photos in front of it. I imagine its a very popular display on Valentine’s Day. And then we came to the big aquarium. The one which looks like a giant movie screen but it is a live movie screen with lots of fishes and sharks swimming around. It was a bit surreal. I have to admit, my mind kept wondering what would happen if it suddenly burst. Or if some idiotic person decided to throw a rock at it…There’s also a restaurant next to it. I was told that people can eat and watch the fishes swimming. A bit creepy. And sadistic. But the giant tank was cool.
After that, we got a bit hungry and headed out into the bright sunshine. We had a bit of lunch at Hard Rock (terrible food) and then walked around. We spied the big Merlion and headed in that direction only to discover that Sentosa was more than Universal Studios! What a relief. Unfortunately, we were getting tired and I was getting a bit cranky so we wanted to head back. At first I wanted to take the monorail (its free heading back to the main island) but the Beau insisted we take cable car, which I wasn’t terribly excited about since I figured it would be a really really hot ride. Well, I’m glad I didn’t argue. He proposed while we were suspended in mid-air. He got down on one knee and everything! Because he proposed, we went all the way to Mt. Faber so that I could ring the bell of happiness. We also bought a pair of bells. Wrote our names and the date we were engaged and hung it on a wooden railing next to the restaurant. I was so excited I think I told everyone we met we just got engaged!
So yep! That’s my engagement story. And also the story of the day we spent at Sentosa.
I met up with an old friend who found out I was recently engaged. He suggested Changi City Point as it is close to where the both of us live. After driving around, we finally found some parking space and proceded to the al fresco areas of the mall where the restaurants are located. We easily settled on 5 Izakaya as the alcohol there isn’t terribly expensive. We were quickly ushered to a table. And then told to move to another table because the first table we were given is a reserved table.
The menu was filled with very basic stuff. Most of the items were starter foods with most items at $5. We picked a fried rice, some unagi thing with omelette instead of rice in a sushi presentation (I think they called it tamago?) and lotus fries (namely because we liked the name and we were curious as to what it was).
I also ordered a glass of house white while my friend ordered a sake.
Overall, the food was ok. For $5, I really can’t complain much. My main gripe with the place is the service. The waitress who served us had no clue what was on the menu. And we had to wait a very long time for the food to come. When the fried rice came, there were no utensils. It took multiple tries to get their attention in order to order a second drink. And when I called for my bill (I opened a tab), it took another 15 mins before it came.
The place is quite popular with the people who work around the area. I imagine its because the price of the alcohol is reasonable and there is live music. But they really really need to work on the service of their wait staff.
5 Changi Business Park Central 1
#01-66/67 Changi City Point
Singapore 486038 Changi
I’ve come to the slow realization that there is very little accountability in my weight loss attempts. Everytime I’m on a diet, I see something I like or want to eat, and I tell myself, oh who cares! Or if its time to hit up the gym, excuses like, its sweltering out there… I’m sure I’m perspiring all that weight off!
Well, I’m shaving my head for Hair For Hope in a month. Its one thing to be bald. But to be bald AND fat (with a round face to boot) might be a bit hard for my ego to absorb. So I’m on a quest to lose weight. Fast. But in a healthy way. My wedding pictures may feature a bald bride, but I want the bald bride to be healthy looking!
And this is what I’m going to do. I’m going to start swimming. I started swimming a little bit last week. But after two afternoons, I started looking for excuses to stop. And I’m also going to be a bit stricter with my snacking. My snack vices are frappacinos, wine, biscuits (damm those chocolate chip cookies) and ice cream. I think if I have them once in a while, its ok. But the combination of extensive snacking and laziness is really adding to my waistline.
Current weight 65kg (oy vey! I think that’s like 145lbs)
Waist circumference: 94cm
Exercise last week: 20 laps in the pool
Vices: 1 venti mocha frappacino and 1 tall mocha frappacino, 10 pieces of famous amos pecan chocolate chip cookies and 1 bottle of dry white wine
Last week, black churchgoers were gunned down by a young white man. There is no sugar coating this. This was a hate crime. He didn’t shoot them because their religion offended him. He didn’t shoot them because he was crazy. He shot them because he was white and they were black. Amazingly, the families of the people who died in this hate crime are choosing to forgive him. They are willing to forgive someone who shot their loved ones after they had warmly received and welcomed him to their place of worship. I think that they, collectively, deserve the Nobel Peace Prize.
Moving past from this tragedy, I know that I’ve raved about Serena Williams before but one would think that her life is perfect, right? I mean, Grand Slam titles.And she’s smart to boot. Well turns out she has insecurities like the rest of us. And she had to work hard to overcome them. But have you seen her body. I can’t believe she would have body issues. But she did. Which kind of makes me feel better about myself.
And for those of you in a relationship….here are the 50 things all of us apparently deserve when we are in one. Are you getting any?
And you know what? Sometimes we all need to remember that if we aren’t satisfied with what we have now, we’ll never be satisfied. And we have to be happy with where we are and what we have now.
So last Friday, Little Miss Honey invited me to an awards ceremony called ciNE65 as her “plus one”. I love being a “plus one”, I get to go to places and see stuff I don’t normally see, without the pressure of being the invited one. Plus, I don’t really get invited to stuff anyway.
Now in case you are wondering what in the world ciNE65 is (I didn’t have a clue either), its an initiative to encourage film makers in Singapore to make, well, films about Singapore. This year’s theme was “Believing.Home” and there were film shorts ranging from documentries to drama. Some were about the people around us, some were about the bonds we form, our dreams, and of course my favorite was the film about food and cooking ,entitled “Home made”,which, by the way, won best overall film.
Anyway, I think Irene Ang summed it best when she said (and I’m paraphrasing here), not everyone is Jack Neo, nor should they be.
The award statues were really cute too. One of them was in the shape of the traditional video camera and another one was curvy in the way that classic film looks like when you unreel it.
Also, the films are up on Youtube. So you really should go check it out. There’s a really cool one about a cleaning lady who used to be an airline stewardess.
I remembered reading about the Selfie Coffee in the Straits Times and I took a picture of it, whatsapped it to the Beau and said that we were going to visit it when he arrived. I don’t think he took me too seriously because he just said, sure babe. Well, on his first day here, after dragging him through the narrow streets of Haji Lane (made even narrower by construction) surrounded by (probably expensive) hipster clothes and an express manicure, we stumbled upon the Selfie Coffee. Well, stumbled is a bit of an understatement since there is a huge coffee sculpture with the words Selfie Coffee written on it.
When we entered the area where you order (and collect the coffee), there was a wall with a list of their various types of coffee. There was also a nice display case with some pastries (we debated between the carrot cake and the chocolate lava cake for quite a while). Towards the back of the wall was also a bucket of props for people who were going to take their selfies for the selfie coffee. After ordering a mocha frappe selfie coffee, the waitress passed us her iphone and told us to take a selfie. After two or three tries, we finally got a picture that actually had the two of us in the picture (I know…we aren’t the best with tech). She handed us one of those buzzer thingys and told us to collect it when the buzzer goes off. As there was a sign leading upstairs that said Galifrey, I naturally insisted we had to go up to see if we could spot a Time Lord or two. At the top of the landing was a pink flamingo with some weird looking rabbits and a seating room with some tables and chairs with a sort of weird jungle theme to it. The Beau felt a bit closed in so we ended up heading downstairs and sitting outside (in the heat!) instead.
After a while, we finally got our prize! The coffee itself actually doesn’t taste too bad. The selfie is printed on a rather thick layer of cream. I’m not a huge fan of cream, but the mocha frappe beneath it was decent. It has a decent amount of caffeine in it and didn’t taste too bland.
We did settle on having the carrot cake which was delicious. I’ll be honest, it was quite fun to have a picture painted on the cup. But I’m not sure how sustainable that is as a business model. I think its good that the coffee itself is decent and although they have a rather limited collection of pastries, it actually does taste pretty good. I think if I ever visit the Haji Lane area again, I probably will stop by for some coffee. That said, I don’t really see myself frequenting Haji Lane too much unless if I have visitors from overseas, or if I suddenly feel rather flush. Well, I know I want to go back and get my nails done again so I suppose I might get some coffee and cake there (that is, if I haven’t been filling up too much on that lovely lemonade already). But getting my nails done is a bit of a rare occasion for me (unless if I have another girlfriend accompanying me, I rarely will go about it on my own…).
Singapore celebrated Pride weekend with Pink Dot Day last weekend and this weekend, it is Father’s day so I thought that this ad celebrates both of these weekends in the sweetest way possible.
I said this in response to someone’s facebook post and I’m going to say this again. I am looking forward to the day when we no longer declare ourselves in the Pink camp or the White camp. I look forward to the day when gay pride day is no longer needed because being gay or lesbian or transsexual is no longer news or a point of contention because it is a normal part of our society.
Winner of the... Women of the Year Enterprise award. Observer Food Monthly Award for Best Food Blog. Marie Claire Woman At The Top award. Fortnum & Mason Food And Drink Award. YMCA Courage & Inspiration Award. Red Magazine's Red Hot Women Award. #17 Independent On Sundays Pink List 2013. And the 100m race when I was about, seven...